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Inqanaba 1: Umtshato

Malunga neminyaka esi-8 eyadlulayo yayikukuqhawula kwam umtshato. Kwafuneka ndifumanise ukuba ndingakwazi na ukuba ngutata 'weveki' okanye ndingatshatanga. Ndikhethe le yokugqibela kuba andinokwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwabantwana bam.

Ngexesha loqhawulo-mtshato, kwafuneka ndifumanise ukuba ndiza kuba yindoda enjani. Ngaba ndiza kuba ngumyeni owayenomsindo owayerhuqa i-ex yakhe ngaphandle nangaphandle kwenkundla, imbi ngomlomo wakhe ex kubantwana bakhe, okanye ndiza kuthatha intsikelelo yokuba nabantwana bam kwaye ndithathe indlela ephezulu. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ndithathe indlela ephezulu. Ndisathetha nomfazi wam wangaphambili rhoqo kwaye ndithandazela nosapho lwakhe ngamanye amaxesha ndiyazi ukuba bayasokola. Inyani yile, kuthatha amandla amancinci ngale ndlela kwaye abantwana bam bangcono kakhulu kuyo.

Inqanaba 2: Umsebenzi

Emsebenzini, kuye kwafuneka ndenze izigqibo ngokunjalo. Ndishiye ngaphezulu kwemisebenzi embalwa kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo. Ndishiye enye kuba bendisazi ukuba andizukuba yile nto umphathi wam ufuna ukuba yiyo. Ndishiye enye kutshanje kuba khange ndizalisekiswe ngokobuqu. Ndikwi Umsebenzi omnandi ngoku Oko kuyandicelomngeni yonke imihla ... kodwa ndiqinisekile ukuba ngekhe ndibekhona ishumi leminyaka ukusukela ngoku, nokuba.

Ayisiyo yokuba ndinamathandabuzo, kukuba ndikhululekile nje 'niche' yam kwezentengiso kunye neTekhnoloji. Ndiyakuthanda ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza emsebenzini. Xa izinto zicotha kwaye iinkampani zifuna ezo zakhono zingandiniki mdla, ndiyaqonda ukuba lixesha lokuba ndiqhubeke (ngaphakathi okanye ngaphandle). Ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba xa ndisebenza ngamandla am, ndingumntu owonwabe kakhulu kunakuba ndizikhathaza ngobuthathaka bam.

Inqanaba 3: Usapho

Ndisondela kwi-40 ngoku kwaye ndifikile kwinqanaba lobomi bam apho kufuneka ndenze izigqibo kunye nolwalamano lwam ngokunjalo. Kwixesha elidlulileyo, ndisebenzise amandla amaninzi ukuba nosapho oluziqhenyayo ngam. Ngeendlela ezininzi, uluvo lwabo lwalubaluleke ngaphezu kolwam. Ngexesha, ndiye ndaqonda ukuba bayilinganisela impumelelo eyahluke kakhulu kunangaphambili.

Impumelelo yam ibonwa lulonwabo lwabantwana bam, umgangatho kunye nobungakanani babahlobo obuqinileyo, inethiwekhi yabantu endisebenza nabo, intlonipho endiyifumanayo emsebenzini, kunye neemveliso kunye neenkonzo endizenzayo mihla le. Ungaqaphela ukuba isihloko, udumo okanye ithamsanqa zazingekho apho. Babengekho, kwaye ngekhe babe njalo.

Ngenxa yoko, isigqibo sam ibikukushiya abantu ngasemva abazama ukunditsalela ezantsi endaweni yokundiphakamisa. Ndiyabahlonipha, ndiyabathanda kwaye ndiyabathandazela, kodwa andizukuchitha amandla ukuzama ukubenza bonwabe kwakhona. Ukuba andiphumeleli kuluvo lwabo, banokugcina uluvo lwabo. Ndingu linoxanduva lokonwaba kwam kwaye kufuneka bamkele uxanduva olungelwabo.

Njengotata, ndonwabile ukuba bangoobani abantwana bam okwangoku, kwaye ndiyabathanda ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Iincoko zethu mihla le zimalunga noko baphumeleleyo ukukwenza, hayi kukusilela kwabo. Oko kwathethi, Ndilukhuni ebantwaneni bam ukuba abaphili ngokwamandla abo, nangona kunjalo.

Amabanga entombazana yam ehle kakhulu kwiveki ephelileyo. Ndicinga ukuba uninzi lwayo yayikukuba ubomi bakhe bezentlalo babubaluleke ngakumbi kunomsebenzi wakhe wesikolo. Wayebuhlungu xa efumana amabanga, nangona kunjalo. Uye wakhala imini yonke kuba ungumfundi we-A / B. Yayingeyondlela endandiphoxeke ngayo eyayibonakala, yayindlela awayephoxeke ngayo.

UKatie uyakuthanda ukukhokela eklasini kwaye uyakucaphukela ukuba sezantsi. Senze ezinye iinguqu- akukho zitshomi zityeleleyo phakathi evekini kwaye akukho make-up. Imake-up yayiyeyona inzima… bendicinga ukuba uzokutshisa imingxunya kum ngamehlo akhe. Kwiveki ephelileyo, nangona kunjalo, amanqaku akhe aqala ukubuya. Akasatshisi mingxunya kum, ade andihleke nangemini enye emotweni.

Sisenzo esinzima socingo oluphezulu, kodwa ndenza konke okusemandleni ukugxininisa kwizinto ezilungileyo, hayi ezimbi. Ndizama ukubakhokelela kwicala lolwandle oluhle, ndingasoloko ndibakhumbuza ngesiqhwithi emva kwabo.

Njengokuba abantwana bam bekhula bekhululekile kunye nabo, ndikhula ndibathanda ngakumbi ukuba ngoobani. Ziyandothusa yonke imihla. Ndinabantwana abangaqhelekanga… kodwa andinazo kwaphela iingcamango ezingezizo zokuba ngubani 'ndicinga ukuba kufanele ukuba babe' okanye 'indlela ekufuneka benze ngayo'. Yile yabo ukuba baqonde. Ukuba bonwabile neziqu zabo, ulwalathiso lwabo ebomini, kunye nam… ke ndonwabile ngabo. Eyona ndlela ndingabafundisa ngayo kukubabonisa indlela endenza ngayo. UBuddha wathi, "Lowo undibonayo uyayibona imfundiso yam." Andinakuvuma ngakumbi.

Inqanaba 4: Uvuyo

Ndikhumbula a amagqabantshintshi ithutyana ubuyile 'kumhlobo olungileyo', William ngubani obuzile, "Kutheni amaKristu kusoloko kufuneka azichaze?". Khange ndiwuphendule umbuzo kuba kuye kwafuneka ndicinge kakhulu ngawo. Wayenyanisile. AmaKrestu amaninzi azisa ukuba ngoobani 'abangcwele kunawe'. UWilliam unelungelo lokucela umngeni kubantu kule nto. Ukuba ubeka isiseko, kulungele ukuphendula ukuba kutheni ulapho!

Ndifuna abantu bazi ukuba ndingumKristu- hayi kuba ndinguye kodwa ngenxa yokuba ndinethemba lokuba ngolunye usuku. Ndifuna uncedo ngobomi bam. Ndifuna ukuba ngumntu onobubele. Ndifuna abahlobo bam bandiqonde njengomntu obakhathaleleyo, ndibabeke ngoncumo ebusweni babo, okanye ndibakhuthaze ukuba benze into eyahlukileyo ngobomi babo. Njengokuba ndihleli emsebenzini ndisebenza nomthengisi onenkani okanye ibug endisombulula ingxaki kwizangqa, kulula kum ukuba ndilibale umfanekiso omkhulu kwaye ndithethe amagama ambalwa. Kulula kum ukuba nomsindo kubantu benkampani abandinika ubunzima.

Uluvo lwam (olunomda) lweemfundiso endikholelwa kuzo zindixelela ukuba abo bantu bakwezinye inkampani mhlawumbi basebenza nzima, banemiceli mngeni abazama ukuyoyisa, kwaye bafanelwe ngumonde kunye nentlonipho yam. Ukuba ndiyakuxelela ukuba ndingumKristu, indivulela ukugxekwa xa ndingumhanahanisi. Ndihlala ndingumhanahanisi (amaxesha amaninzi) ngoko zive ukhululekile ukundazisa ukuba andinguye umKristu olungileyo, nokuba awunazo iinkolelo ezifana nezam.

Ukuba ndingafumana inqanaba lesi-4, ndiza kulishiya eli lizwe lingumntu owonwabileyo. Ndiyazi ukuba ndizakufumana ulonwabo lwenene… Ndikhe ndalubona olo vuyo kwabanye abantu kwaye nam ndiyalufuna. Ukholo lwam lundixelela ukuba le yinto kaThixo ufuna ukuba ndibenayo. Ndiyazi ukuba yinto ekhoyo yokuthatha, kodwa kunzima ukuyilahla imikhwa emibi kunye nokutshintsha iintliziyo zethu. Ndiza kuqhubeka nokusebenza kuyo, nangona kunjalo.

Ndiyathemba ukuba le ibingeyonto ikhawulezayo kuwe. Ndidinga ukukhupha kancinci malunga nemicimbi yosapho kunye nokubhala ngokucacileyo kungandinceda kakhulu. Mhlawumbi iyakukunceda nawe!

13 Comments

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    Iposi enkulu! Kwaye ndiyakuthanda ukwazi ukuba ayindim ndedwa umzali obohlwaya ngokususa izithambiso. Intombi yam icinga ukuba i-eyeliner ngumhlobo wayo osenyongweni. Kuyamangalisa ukuba ngokukhawuleza "uyifumana" xa engavunyelwe ukuba nayo. 🙂

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      I-Eyeliner lutshaba oluneminyaka eli-13 ubudala. 🙂

      Ndicinga ukuba ukwenziwa kwezinto kuthambile. Andikaze ndibengumntu othanda ukwakheka kwaye ithiyori yam kukuba abantu basetyhini basebenzisa ngakumbi nangakumbi ngenxa yokuba befumana ukungathandeki kwindlela abahle ngayo. Ke… ukuba uneminyaka eli-13, uya kuphelela phezulu ujonge iPicasso xa uneminyaka engama-30.

      Ngekhefu lokuzilungisa, ndiyathemba ukuba uKatie uyayibona indlela amhle ngayo aze emva koko asebenzise kancinci kamva.

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        Ndiyavuma. Nangona izakhono zentombi yam ze-eyeliner zifike ziluncedo kakhulu ngokuhlwanje njengoko bendilungiselela umnyhadala weHallland Film Festival Crystal Heart Awards. Uye wabhengeza ukuba "ndiyayenza gwenxa" kwaye ke ndiye ndawenza ngamehlo am amnandi. Ewe, andinguye fan omkhulu wokwenza izinto, ubukhulu becala b / c andithandi ukuchitha ixesha kuyo. Abafazi abaninzi abayifaka ngetawuli kufuneka bayeke b / c ngokwenene bahle kakhulu phantsi. Ungutata olungileyo ngokuzama ukufundisa intombi yakho ukuba buyintoni ubuhle ngokwenene.

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    Wow, yeyiphi iposti uDoug! Ndiyasithanda isimo sakho sengqondo.

    Uyazi, kukho ukungqubana okukhulu phakathi kobuKristu ne-Islam xa kufikwa kusapho nakwixabiso lentlalontle. Ininzi into oyithethileyo uyakholelwa kwimizekelo yeemfundiso ezininzi zamaSilamsi. Kuyahlekisa ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ii-non-Mulsims ezinje ngawe zenza umsebenzi ongcono wokubonisa amaxabiso amaSilamsi kunamanye ama-Muslim theme.

    Ke ngoku, ndiyothulel 'umnqwazi! Gcina isimo sengqondo esihle. Ungumblogi omkhulu, kwaye uqinisekile ukuba isihogo sivakala ngathi sisihogo sikatata.

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      Enkosi AL,

      Iyahlekisa into oyithethayo. Ndiyifundile iKurani kwaye ndinabahlobo abathile abangamaSilamsi. Ngalo lonke ixesha sihlangana sifumana okuninzi okufanayo phakathi kweenkolo zethu. Enkosi ngokuncoma kwakho-andicingi ukuba ndingumzali olungileyo njengokuba ndinokuba njalo, kodwa ndiyazama!

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    Uxolo ukuyithetha, kodwa esi sithuba sinempikiswano malunga nokuba ungazikhuphi okanye ungabhalisi- ngezizathu ezimbalwa:

    1. Le yibhlog malunga nentengiso (okanye umbono wam). Ngelixa kulungile ukongeza ubuntu kwaye kulungile ukukhankanya iinkolelo zakho, iposti ende malunga nenkolo yandicima.

    Sukundilahlekisa; inkolo ilungile kwaye ndiyazihlonipha iinkolelo zakho. Kodwa inkolo yeyam, kwaye andicingi ukuba inendawo kwibhlog yeshishini. Ukuba bendifuna ukufunda malunga nenkolo, ndingabhalisa kwiiblogi ezineembono zenkolo.

    Ukubhala malunga nentombazana ekwishumi elivisayo ikhala imini yonke kumabanga amabi kundenza ndigule esiswini. Umntwana akaphoxeki, kunokwenzeka ukuba woyika impendulo yakho!

    3. Ukubhala ngokohlwaya umntwana ngamabakala amabi emva kokuba ekhalile imini yonke (engeyiyo indlela eqhelekileyo yokuphendula kwamantombazana) kundenza ndizive ndigula kakhulu. Wohlwaya umntu xa enze into engalunganga kwaye ungazisoli, ngokuqinisekileyo. Kodwa xa umntu enze ukhetho olubi, eyiqonda, wafunda kuyo kwaye ukulungele ukwenza ngcono kwixesha elizayo, uyiyeke. Vumela intombazana ukuba yakhe ukuzithemba. Myeke enze ngcono kuba ufuna-hayi kuba esoyika isohlwayo.

    Ndiyayihlonipha into yokuba ungavuma okanye ungavumi. Ndicinga nje ukuba ungathanda ukwazi ukuba kutheni le blog iposwe luphawu olupheleleyo nam.

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      Hi James,

      Enkosi ngokuthatha ixesha ubhale. Ukuba uziva unyanzelekile ukuba ungabhalisi, ndiya kuba nosizi ukukubona uhamba kodwa ndilungile kuloo nto. Le ayisiyo blog yebumbano, yeyakho. Kananjalo, ndicebisa abafundi bam kubugcisa bam kodwa ndikwaseburhulumenteni ekuthumeleni iinkolelo zam kubafundi bam.

      Ixesha elingaphezulu, ndiye ndangumhlobo omkhulu kunye nabafundi bebhlog yam- ubukhulu becala kwinxalenye yokuba ndabelana ngomsebenzi wam nobomi bam kunye nabafundi bam. Ndiyavuma; Nangona kunjalo, gcina iiposti zam kwicandelo lam "laseKhaya" ukuze uphephe ukuzifunda ukuba ungathanda.

      Ndiyaluhlonipha uluvo lwakho kwinto eyenzekileyo nentombi yam ngokunjalo. Intombi yam ayivalelwanga naphi na :), unokuseta okuninzi… iselfowuni, isidlali-mp3, ikhompyuter, umabonwakude, njlnjl kunjalo 'akanako ukohlwaywa' nangona esusa i-makeup yinto eyamnika ubunzima. Ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba akandoyiki. Unokucaphuka ukuba ucinga undiphoxile, kodwa andikaze ndinike uKatie isizathu sokuba 'ndoyike'.

      Andiqinisekanga kangako, nge-13, bekufanele ukuba ndimvumele ukuba abeke izithambiso kodwa uyintombazana elungileyo enamabanga amahle kwaye unesimo sengqondo esihle-ke ndizama ukumnika inkululeko ayifunayo. Xa endibonisa ukuba angayiphatha, andizange ndibeke mida kuye. Ukuba ungumzali, uyazi ukuba zinzima kangakanani ezi meko.

      Ndiyathemba ukuba uhlala ujikeleze kwaye undazi! Kukho ulwazi olulungileyo kule bhlog kwaye ndiyathanda ukwabelana ngezinto endizifundayo kwishishini.

      Bahlali,
      Doug

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    Kulungile ngokwaneleyo, uDoug. Ndinebhlog yeshishini kunye nodidi olubizwa ngokuba yi "Personal Ramblings" yohlobo olufanayo lwezinto. Uyilo lwesiza kunye nokugubungela ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kundinike umbono wokuba ibhlog yeshishini ngokungqongqo.

    Ndizifumana ndikwimeko engaqhelekanga kakhulu kwi-Intanethi. NdinguKhanada, kwaye inkcubeko yethu ihlala ithule kakhulu malunga nenkolo kunabamelwane bethu baseMelika, uninzi lwabo oluthanda ukuba yingozi (ngokoluvo lwam, kwaye anditsho ukuba uyingozi). Ndiyazihlonipha iinkolelo zabantu kwaye ndinam, andikuthandi ukunyanzeliswa.

    Ngelishwa, obo bugqwirha bundiyekile ukuba ndilumke xa nditshitshiswa yi-bible, kwaye i-radar yam yokuqhushumba okungenayo ibonakala ngathi ibekwe kuvakalelo oluphezulu. Ke ukuba andizukuqhuzulwa apha, ndiza kuhlala apha. Isivumelwano esifanelekileyo?

    Ngokubhekisele kwiintombi… Kulungile ukuva ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ulutsha luyayidinga loo nkululeko, kwaye enkosi ngokuyicoca. Ndiyakholelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ekuqineni kwe-leash, ngakumbi ingxaki yabazali abazibekele yona. Andikhethi "fumana" abazali abasebenzisa isandla esinzima nabantwana babo. Ayisiyo mpendulo nje.

    Kwaye… ndineminyaka eli-14 ubudala kwaye ndimncinci, ukuze ndikwazi ukudibana nemiceli mngeni yokuba ngumzali kunye namandla okwenza izithambiso.

    Enkosi kwakhona ngempendulo yakho. Ndine-bit (kulungile kakhulu) yempendulo yamadolo eposini, ke ukuze wabelane kancinci ngam ukuze ungacingi ukuba ndilempundu, funda kwiphepha lam malunga nokuphendula kwamadolo.

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      Thina bantu baseMelika sithanda ukutyhala yonke into ebusweni bomntu wonke - imfazwe, ubutyebi, itekhnoloji, umculo, inkolo… uyayibiza ngegama kwaye siyazingca ngobubi esibuqhekeza! Xa omnye wethu enyanisekile, kunzima ukusithatha ngokungathí sina.

      Ndahlala eVancouver iminyaka emi-6, ndathweswa isidanga kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo apho. Ngapha koko, icala likaMama losapho lonke liCanada. Utat'omkhulu ligosa elidla umhlala-phantsi kwimikhosi yaseCanada. Ndingumlandeli omkhulu waseKhanada kwaye ndisakwazi ukucula umhobe (ngesiNgesi, ndiyilibele inguqulelo yesiFrentshi). Umama nguQuebecois, wazalelwa eMontreal.

      Ndiqhula nabahlobo bam besikolo samabanga aphakamileyo ukuba iMelika ayinakucela itoque engcono kuneCanada!

      Enkosi ngempendulo yakho ecingayo… andikaze ndiyithathe ngoluhlobo konke konke.

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